Anyone who follows my twitter and Facebook feeds already knows that I am having a moment with Kate Elliot’s Soraya Chemaly’s post The Problem with ‘Boys will be boys’. To say I love this post is an understatement. As she explains how three different boys approached playing blocks with her daughter, it is like getting a piece of the rape culture blueprint and having a veil lifted from our eyes about just how complicit we all are in building up and maintaining rape culture. It isn’t born into us. It is cultivated into us!

For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never…